Thursday, October 09, 2008

Melanomics, part two

Ok, the second part of our new system is a reward system. I said before how much I disliked these, but I'm going to try it. This system is simpler to explain. It actually works out nicely because Kain will be receiving his first reconciliation soon and I managed to tie this in. I made a list of good behaviors associated with 8 of the Ten Commandments. It's basically an examination of conscience. Here's our list, if you are interested. The stuff in parenthesis is for your benefit. :)
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First commandment:
Respectful during family prayer times.

Second commandment:
Uses God’s name respectfully.
Does not use bad language.

Third commandment:
Pays attention during mass and is respectful, especially during consecration.
Participates in prayers and singing during mass.

Fourth commandment:
Up in the morning on second warning.
Morning list done completely and checked off.
Independent work done completely.
Independent work done neatly and school stuff put away.
Helpful acts for Aunt Mel and Uncle John.
Zone checks done well with one reminder.
Zone checks done well with no reminder.
Meal chores done well without complaint.
No getting out of bed the night before.
No more than one warning with Jack at bedtime the night before.
No warnings with Jack at bedtime the night before.
Bedroom floor clean during random checks.
Respectful to other adults. (i.e., PSR class, Upward practice, etc.)
Picked up after yourself.

Fifth commandment:
Did not fight with anyone. (you know, in a nasty way, not just a conflict of interest)
Did not tease anyone.
Did not provoke anyone to anger. (i.e., baiting)
Performed acts of kindness.

Seventh commandment:
Respected other’s property.
Played fairly with others.
Set a good example for others.

Eight commandment:
Spoke and behaved honestly. (no lying or sneaking)
Spoke respectfully to others.

Tenth commandment:
Acted generously and without envy. (no tantrum throwing because "THAT'S NOT FAIR")
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I'm sure I will be tweaking this and adding other things as I see a need. At the end of the day, we will go down the list and he will get checks for the good things he did. When he gets 300 checks, he can choose from a list of special outings, like swimming at the rec center, roller skating, ice cream cones at the McDonald's playland, etc. We are scouting out other ideas to add to the outing list. They need to be free or inexpensive. 300 sounds like a lot, but there's potential to earn over 20 checks a day, so it can add up quickly if behavior is good. With some areas, like performing acts of kindness, you can even earn more than one check a day. I tried to figure it in a way so that at least some attempt at decent behavior can earn an outing once a month or so and really great behavior can earn one in a couple of weeks.

Maria, of course, wanted in on this one...so she will be participating in this part of the system too. So, that's my brainchild, that's what I've been working on while Kain has been gone. Today's the first day and I started him on "Blessed", but he's already been dropped to "Venerable", haha! We'll see how it goes. He's not thrilled with the levels, but he loves the checklists.

4 comments:

Sister Mary Martha said...

I don't know why, but it really makes me laugh that the fourth commandment has the biggest list!

mel said...

ha! Well, Sister, ironically that's what causes the most disobedience around here. :)

Angela M. said...

What a great idea!

Homestic Affairs said...

Hey there. I caught on to your blog from Morning Glories and Moonflowers. We thrive on charts at our house and my oldest is only 3 years old. I don't know what I'd do without our Correction and Blessings charts! I hope it works well for you!